Coaching for me is about looking at what is happening to a client, giving them the space to establish what they want to change then working with them to put the changes in place. We do this by working together and putting things in place in small steps until the final goal is achieved.
I believe that as individuals we know what is right for us but that we don’t always have the space, time or words to express that. That’s where a professional, independent person like me can help.
People often change their lives in a time of crisis as emotional pain can be a catalyst for seeking happiness by making positive changes. It is a privilege to be part of that process and to see the difference in my clients.
Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP)
My Coaching training contained a great deal of NLP and I loved it but it took me another 11 years to complete my NLP training as I wasn’t sure about what the benefits were in having a separate qualification in this on its own. However, once I embarked on the training I realised how much I had been using NLP in my Coaching and I also gained some extra very useful skills that I didn’t have before. This is very beneficial to my clients.
What is NLP?
NLP can be thought of as a set of practical skills and insights that can be used to improve how we communicate with others, manage our moods and live a more rewarding life. It uses the 3 most influential aspects of producing human experience – that is neurology, language and programming.
By combining NLP and Coaching I became an NLP Coach and am delighted with the breakthroughs clients experience with specific issues such as phobias, emotional blocks and limiting self-beliefs.
Positive Psychology is the study of a variety of topics including happiness, optimism, subjective wellbeing and personal growth. My journey into this began a long time again but I didn’t know it had a name. That journey has led me to gain a variety of qualifications, help lots of people and also guided me as a parent.
Of course life can’t always be good but if we know about what makes us happy, how to cope with and recover from challenging times then it makes life a little easier.
Positive Psychology looks at how effective and happy people, organisations, communities and countries function. This information can then be used to suggest how people, organisations, communities and countries can also thrive.
We see a lot about this in the news and media at the moment so it feels right to talk about it here too! Within positive psychology we use a range of tools to enhance lives and one of those that has been tested and found to be useful is mindfulness. In a mindful state the individual learns to decentre, to see their thoughts and feelings as temporary and objective events that are in the mind as opposed to being absolutely true reflections of the self.
By detaching from the strong thoughts and feelings that trouble us we are able to be less distressed by them. So much of our lives are spent on autopilot that we are unaware of our moment to moment experiences which means we may miss out on some special experiences such as seeing the sun set or rise. Simple pleasures that connect us to nature are very important for our longer term wellbeing so the more we can be mindful the more we can benefit.
“Those who contemplate the beauty of the earth find reserves in strength that will endure as long as life lasts” Rachel Carson, Ecologist